The Lies We Tell Ourselves
"When Jesus saw Nathaniel approaching, he said of him, 'Here is a true Israelite, in whom there is nothing false [an honest man].'"1
In working with relationships over the years, I have often heard people try and verbalize what they wish they were in an effort to somehow make it a reality. Or they will constantly bring out the faults in others in an effort to hide their own flaws.
It's amazing the lies we tell ourselves and the amount of denial we are inóin order to avoid facing the painful reality of the truth.
Jeffrey Gitomer agrees. He said, "My experience has shown me that if you have to say what you are, you probably aren't. Think about that for a moment. 'I'm honest,' 'I'm ethical,' even 'I'm the boss,' or 'I'm in charge,' often indicates just the opposite."
What freedom and release we find when we have the courage to admit our faults, sins, and problemsónot as a means to put ourselves downóbut as a means to quit the merry-go-round trap of denial, and grow in love and maturity. It's amazing what being honest and becoming real will do for improving our relationshipsóboth with God and others! Denial is a mask to hide behind but masks can't relate. Only real people can. Furthermore, only God can help us to the degree that we are honest with ourselves and with Him. It's the only way to live life to the full!
Suggested prayer: "Dear God, please help me to be open-faced, honest and realówith myself, others, and above all with You. Thank You for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus's name, amen."
1. John 1:47 (NIV).
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Richard (Dick) Innes unless otherwise stated.