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Listening First

My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak…¹

 

Nelson Mandela was known for his leadership skills, but what set him apart from other leaders was his ability to listen. His story began in the heart of tribal leadership where, as the son of a tribal chief, he learned invaluable lessons that would shape his own leadership style for years to come. When asked how he became such a great leader, Mandela recalled a simple yet profound practice he observed during those tribal meetings with his father. He noted that the elders always sat in a circle that signified equality and unity. But, what stood out to him most of all was that his father, the chief, was always the last to speak.

  

In a world where most everyone wants their opinions heard; many want to speak first and be the loudest voice in an argument, Mandela's lesson emphasizes the power of restraint and careful listening. He once said, “You will be told your whole life that you need to learn to listen. I would say that you need to learn to be the last to speak.” This wisdom has yet to be learned by many leaders today. How often have we been part of a meeting where the leader will enter the room, present their opinions and then close with, “But, I’m interested in your thoughts. Who has another idea?” As Mandela understood, it is often too late. Most won’t want to challenge the leader with their own ideas and many great and wise opinions are lost. Speaking first can inadvertently silence others. The true skill lies in holding one's opinions in check until every voice has had it’s say. This grants everyone the feeling that they have been heard and ensures that the leaders benefit from the collective wisdom of their team.

  

James 3:17 says that “wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere.” Earlier in this book we are challenged to be “slow to speak”. Proverbs says that the righteous think before they give their answer. (Prov. 15:28) Sounds to me like Nelson Mandela had sound Biblical advice behind his knowledge!

 

Suggested Prayer: Dear Lord, I know that you have so much for me to hear and I only need to listen. I ask for the wisdom to keep silent and glean from others’ knowledge. Let your name be glorified in all my conversations. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

 

1. James 1:19 (NIV).

 

 

Today’s Encounter was written by: Veronica B.